We all have a story. Whether we choose to share it or not is another matter. Following mum’s death I started to write about her, and our, struggle with dementia. It helped but I didn’t ever envisage sharing my writings. A friend who I trust and rely on always, told me about ‘Company of Others‘ who wanted stories of endings from real northern women for … Continue reading We all have a story …
We lost mum a couple of years ago now but she had lived with dementia for several years before that. As it’s national poetry day I decided to share a poem I’d written. Dementia You know your first name But not your surname You know where you feel safe But don’t know your address. You recognise your husband But not your children. You eat … Continue reading National Poetry Day – Dementia
Nearly a year on from mum’s death and we are learning how to cope. Lots of tears, skirting around issues, trying not to say the wrong thing. Dad has a huge gaping hole where mum was and is fragile but strong. Mum’s shoes have finally been moved from the front door, he’s cleaning out wardrobes ( so that I don’t have to do it when … Continue reading Nearly a year
None of us know what the future holds. None of us know how our lives will pan out. I’m sure there are times when you look back and say ‘if only’. Mum’s dementia caused lots of ‘if only’ moments. ‘If only she could have told us how she felt, if she understood why we had to have her placed into care, if she forgave us, if … Continue reading Write a letter to your loved ones
It’s a strange time at the minute and one where we are coping with a range of emotions. We interred mum’s ashes this morning and said our goodbyes once again. It felt very odd, a small wooden casket, two lots of workmen a council officer and a funeral director. Mum’s final resting place is elegant marble and bedecked with beautiful flowers – it gives us … Continue reading Mixed emotions
Mum died on 26th June and we have spent this week making the seemingly hundreds of arrangements. I will blog properly when I get my head together but wrote this today as i’m struggling. Friends keep asking me how I am but the honest answer is I don’t know. Mum died last week and whilst I’m desperately trying to mourn her I’m having trouble finding … Continue reading 1st July 2015
Jane Hewitt 